In Afro in the Boardroom, I explore the invisible forces that shape boardroom culture including the under-discussed but deeply damaging presence of narcissism in leadership. Narcissistic managers are not just difficult; they can erode team morale, stifle innovation, and derail careers particularly for Black professionals navigating complex identity dynamics in the workplace.
Spotting the Narcissist in Charge
Narcissistic managers often exhibit:
- An inflated sense of self-importance
- Lack of empathy or concern for others’ growth
- A tendency to manipulate or gaslight
- Obsessive need for control or admiration
- Resistance to feedback or criticism
Their charm can mask toxicity. They may seem visionary or driven at first but over time, their behaviour becomes self-serving and harmful.
Impact on Employees
Under narcissistic leadership, team members may experience:
- Burnout from overwork and unrealistic expectations
- Silencing of voices, especially those who challenge the status quo
- Erosion of confidence and professional self-worth
- Fear-based work environments
As I discuss in my book, navigating boardroom spaces while Black often requires an extra layer of vigilance. For Black professionals, narcissistic managers can exacerbate feelings of isolation, tokenism, or hyper-surveillance.
Strategies to Protect Your Power
- Set Boundaries Professionally
Clarify your workload, ask for priorities in writing, and document all communications. Emotional boundaries are also key avoid trying to “fix” their behaviour. - Build an Ally Network
Find mentors or peers who understand the dynamics and can offer support or witness key moments. Isolation is their power base; connection is yours. - Document Everything
Keep records of key decisions, requests, and behaviours, this protects you if HR processes are needed. - Focus on Self-Validation
Narcissistic leaders often gaslight others into questioning their worth. Anchor yourself in your values, your growth, and your achievements. - Know When to Exit
Sometimes, the healthiest move is to leave a toxic environment especially if it threatens your mental health or career trajectory. Your well-being is not negotiable.
Healing from Narcissistic Workspaces
Recovery includes reclaiming your confidence, unlearning toxic dynamics, and redefining success on your own terms. For those who’ve endured such environments, remember: the problem was not your professionalism, intelligence, or potential. It was poor leadership.
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Early in my work life, I had a terrible experience with a female boss. I left the job after a year. I didn’t know then, but having come across another narcissist in recent times, I now know. Thank God I didn’t stick around. I value my peace of mind.
Thanks for sharing.
Beautiful! The strategies are comprehensive and I love it. Thank you for sharing.